Feedback Strategies

Five Reasons to Stop Saying "Good Job!"
Whoa, this is really pertinent, especially in today's culture of instant gratification. We want our effort to see immediate results, and be immediately praised for it. If not, then we lose interest, moving on to a new thing that will generate more praise from others. Ultimately, our life revolves, not around our own effort, but upon others' evaluation of us. If we continue relying on the easy, "Good job!" then we are raising up a generation that will be unspecialized, timid, and altogether useless as a future society.

Be a Mirror
This lines up exactly with the article above; in giving feedback, the one offering it must "be a mirror," that is, take themselves completely out of the feedback. Instead of saying, "I like.." it's more effective to start with "When you..." or some variation of it, that shifts the focus to the one putting in effort. This uplifts the process they went through to produce something, giving them a basis on which to improve that isn't someone else's opinion or words. This causes a self-motivation and interest that will continue to be refined as he or she continues to get better at whatever they are doing.

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(rearview mirror, from PxHere)

One day, when I have kids, this will be good to look back on.

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